- Love, Emily and Paul and Ashley and Caroline and Tom <3
What I want most isn’t anything material. It isn’t anything that you can hold on to physically. What I want most is to see happiness in other people. To see happiness and hopefulness in the eyes of those i’ve seen before living in sorrow and pain.
We’re all going to go through difficult tasks and events in life. No matter how much we try to push the negatives out of our lives and try to shut them out by ignoring them, they will still attempt to come back.
Life is a game. You will be hit with task after task and event after event to make the right decisions. To be able to experience certain things, to be made stronger. Everything that happens to us is to help us become stronger both mentally and physically. Once we learn from our mistakes and resolve the issue at hand or maybe even the issue from the past, then we can move on from that and we are given the next task we have to conquer in life.
I’ve been through some pretty terrible things, and even drove myself literally crazy, and I know I haven’t been through as bad of things as others have, but it really all demends on how we handle the situations.
Life can be a good thing. Everyone always complains about how much their life sucks, how much people suck, and how much everything sucks. It doesn’t have to be that way though. If someone calls you a name, don’t take it personally. Anything they say reflects back on them and their own insecurities. Words only have as much meaning as you put behind them. If you don’t like someone, fine; don’t talk to them, don’t mention them, don’t think about them. They can stay out of your life if you don’t want them there. If you’re going through something serious, there is a way to get help. Whether it’s a friend, a family member, a guidance counselor, teacher you trust, or a help line-You CAN get help. It’s okay to reach out for help, because when you do that shows that you are strong. Trying to handle something alone doesn’t make you strong because you’re always going to be much stronger with more than one person.
Stop. Stop having regrets because clearly you wanted to do what you did at the time. You don’t need to regret the mistakes you have made because they have shaped you into the person you are today. Stop living in the past and living in the future. The past not longer is and the future has yet to come, so why waste your time worrying about either? Today, is the only day you have. Right now is all you have. Stop reminding yourself of the depression. The sad songs, the sad quotes, the sad pictures, the sad videos, the sad thoughts. Instead replace them with happier things. Get all of the negativity our of your life one step at a time. You can listen to happy music, read inspiring quotes, clear your head, and distract yourself by doing something you enjoy, with something that makes you happy.
It’s okay. It is okay to cry, it is okay to ask for help, and it is okay to feel lost. You’re not alone. The majority of those who are reading this i’m sure are teenagers. Did you know that teenager don’t have a fully devoloped frontal lobe in their brain? It’s not fully developed until around the age of 21 (recent studies show 25), which is why the drinking age is what it is. “The frontal lobes are involved in motor function, problem solving, spontaneity, memory, language, initiation, judgement, impulse control, and social and sexual behavior” (neuroskills.com). This is why we need quidance every so often to help us make the right decisions. We can’t decide things for ourselves, we simply can not make the right decisions because our frontal lobes aren’t fully developed. Simple as that, there is nothing wrong with us so it’s okay to be wondering just why you did what you did because at the time your undeveloped frontal lobe told you to.
Breath. Take a couple of moments out of your day to focus on the presant moment and breathe carefully. Concentrate on the here and now because as I said, this is the only moment you have. You can get through this. There are plenty of people out there who are just like you, and plenty of people who have made it through similar situations that you have been in. Focus on the positives, breath in, breath out, and live.
What I want most is to be able to see more awareness. For more people to notice each other. Reach out a helping hand when needed, or ask for a helping hand, rather. What I want most reflects off of what i’ve been through and what I know now.
Happiness is to be achieved not placed in front of you one day on a silver platter.
You can achieve happiness, I believe in you.
(via infinite--feelings)
Hm, that kind of thing is pretty normal. Is something going on in your life to make these thoughts occur this time of year, or is it just the Holidays? Its complicated to tell you how to get rid of these thoughts.There is nothing wrong with thinking of these things, but if it stresses you out, maybe having a discussion with someone could help clear these thoughts, or I know if I want to clear some thoughts I meditate. If it is just this time of year, it might just go away on its own. I hope this helped.
-Emily
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”THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. it may save a life.) Reblog this! ————————————————————————————————————————————It seems that alot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not manypeople know how to take care of themselves when faced with such asituation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world.THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG…FYI - Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists inprison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victimand here are some interesting facts:1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braidor other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely togo after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not commontargets.2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for womenwho’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissorsaround to cut clothing.3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching throughtheir purse or doing other activities while walking because they areoff guard and can be easily overpowered.4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at isgrocery store parking lots.5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.6] Number three is public restrooms.7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a womanand quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have toworry about getting caught.8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouragedbecause it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that goingafter you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,orother similar objects that can be used from a distance, in theirhands.10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close tothe attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convincethese guys you’re not worth it.———————————————————————————————————————————-POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage orwith you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and askthem a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Nowthat you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up,you lose appeal as a target.2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front ofyou and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked tosaid they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she wouldnot be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASYtarget.3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate ofit and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPERSPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you cando it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist frombehind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow andarmpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class thisguy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who wastrying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skinand tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinchingyourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from aparticularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts itis extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy andmake him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told ourinstructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot oftrouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingersand bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushingdown on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without usingmuch pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles crackedaudibly.7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware ofyour surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see anyodd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feellittle silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy reallywas trouble.——————————————————————————————————————————-FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will besome, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading,forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful inthis crazy world we live in.1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on yourbody. If you are close enough to use it, do it.2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asksfor your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away fromyou…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/orpurse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD INTHE OTHER DIRECTION!3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the backtail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving likecrazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This hassaved lives.4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating,working, etc., and just sit(doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! Thepredator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity forhim to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tellyou where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, orparking garage:a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may behiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside thepassenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORERIDING A TAXI CAB) .b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from thepassenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pullingthem into their vans while the women are attempting to get into theircars.c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, andthe passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearestyour car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get aguard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFETHAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells arehorrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYSRUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times;And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It mayget you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was agood-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathiesof unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and oftenasked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is whenhe abducted his next victim. Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that theworld we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe thansorry.If u have a heart or compassion reblog this post.‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW!ATLEAST PEOPLES WILL KNOW WATS GOIN IN THIS WORLD.So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.I hope you all will Reblog. Lets See how many of you really care for this.](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lu7lwsOJZT1qc1gsio1_250.jpg)
I do this all the time. I’m sorry to hear your friends have self-injured again. The best thing to do, if you can is tell someone, whether its a therapist, or just a parent. I know how scary it can be when dealing with stuff like this. If you’re feeling overwhelmed you can try meditating. I would suggest taking some time for yourself, as stressed as you can be over other people, you’ll go crazy. It will all be okay. <3 You need to deal with yourself though, you are more than important enough.
-Emily
